When I was in my teenage years I started noticing that I got what I wanted even if the results were not ideal. It wasn’t just me who noticed either my friends were a bit shocked by it to. The pattern continued even into my adult years. I never had the “charmed life” though because there was always a down fall to it.
In my adult life the downfalls have become a lot more life altering. There was point in his…drama…that it was easier to run the household by myself. At the most chaotic I wished if he didn’t stop I could d it on my own. Well here I am doing it on my own and it sucks. I do not miss the drama but I miss the good times. I miss my best friend. Now my wish is that he gets better from his “stuff” with or without us ending up together. I want a better version of our lives, one centered on God. It is only right as for right now only his intervention can save us.
I also find myself dreaming of the future I want while the present isn’t so easy . Here is my dream:
There is a house that has enough space (and bathrooms) for my girls, my husband (I hope it is him but I want Gods will done not mine) and me. There will be animals, lots of them. You know the Mom that lets you keep the hurt kitten? That is me. I like fences, not the kind that keep people out, the kind that makes you want to come in. Rose bushes and flowers everywhere. A few trees and plants for wandering wild animals. I would love a gazebo and willow tree however it isn’t a must.
My husband will lead the house hold in the way Christ leads the church. Our household will work with him being the head of household. There is a song “Lead me” I always pictured it working like the song is asking for:
Almost perfect from the outside
In picture frames I see my beautiful wife
Always smiling
But on the inside, I can hear her saying
Stand up when I can’t
Don’t leave me hungry for love
Chasing dreams, what about us?
That I’m still the love of your life
I know we call this our home
But I still feel alone.”
They’re just children from the outside
I’m working hard, I tell myself they’ll be fine
They’re independent
But on the inside, I can hear them saying
Stand up when I can’t
Don’t leave me hungry for love
Chasing dreams, what about us?
That I’m still the love of your life
I know we call this our home
But I still feel alone.”
To be everything I am called to be
Oh, Father, show me the way
To lead them
Won’t you lead me?
To stand up when they can’t
Don’t want to leave them hungry for love
Chasing things that I could give up
And give them the best of my life
So we can call this our home
Lead me, ’cause I can’t do this alone
That love doesn’t mean putting up with being treated badly. That they should be treasured. Also, that marriage is work. That it is worth it even if the road is hard and not ideal.