I live a small town, not country style but in the everyone knows everyone to some extent way. We have one general merchandise store most people shop out or have or will work at. So it makes my situation harder because there is always some reminder around the corner. I have tried to avoid obvious place she works that we used to. There are places that should be safe then it get turned around there too. For example his grandmothers friend works at my daughters school. It always seems that when I let my guard down something happens.
The funny thing is the start of this story is my daughters and I driving to this place and my oldest says maybe one day our plan will lead us to moving somewhere else. Speaking the desires of my mind honey! I could use a clean slate for sure. So we are on our way to my nephews first t-ball game. Now if you follow kids sports there is months of practices and lots of games. Short, very long months. We did three years of soccer and oh man by the end of it you are so glad to be done. This is only game one! Well I show up late due to well trying to get kids ready. So when we get there we are only looking for “your” people. I find them and watch kids on the side lines and my nephew standing on the field not paying attention. Also those kids playing was adorable. The kid trying to steal home plate from second. The one who was the size of my two year old. I am just enjoying the time with family. I notice out of the corner of my eye my brother in laws ex-fiancé whom still talks to my mother in law. I smile as I have no thing against her and little care about it. She talks to a girl I went to school with. I am just thinking what a small world and then I saw the old school mates Mom who is my husbands old boss at said small town store. Convinced yet? Well I try to ignore them as I am only there for my nephew. My kid is not on the team so I do not have to sit through the practices. It only gets awkward when the “store people” kept looking at me and whispering. Now with this store you usually keep a link to the store especially when you hit management. So I have a feeling they know something, what I don’t know is what side of the story.
I do not want to be the girl you look at and whisper about be it poor her or man she is a an evil ex-wife keeping her kids from her ex-husband or something in between. I am okay with knowing there are people talking about their opinions because that is life. People judge based off what they see or hear and with whom they know better. I usually don’t care what your opinion is of me. To have people looking and whispering in a place that should be just family fun is driving me crazy though. I know that store is a hot spot of lots of information for both sides and the probability I will run into one of them or both of them. So I only got there when I need to. This isn’t even the other team they were playing. It was the same team so they will be there for every game…yay me. I was just glad that I had plans to go somewhere less then an hour into the game. I have never been so happy to leave a kids sports game.
Although it probably looked like I was running off to meet someone which I was just a group of moms. I know he will freak out when I am even if he has moved on. Which means that there is more added drama. I was once told that I don’t seek out drama it chases me. I really wish it would go away. Although if I am being honest I do have a tendency to straighten my thoughts by ranting. After I feel better and others not so much. That is partially why I started blogging, journaling, and even drawing. It makes it so I can clear my head. I process fast and bounce back however it does hit me hard.
On to bigger things though. I start school next week I am so stoked. The only downfall is it is my oldest kids spring break. So on my school days I have to have someone with her. My youngest has day care at the school campus. On days like this I wish my hope that at least by now we could co parent to the point where I could trust him with the kids. But he is so…impulsive like he was when he was drinking and some red flags have popped up on visitations like he might be that I can’t. It is really hard to want your kids to have a relationship with their Dad but not being able to gamble with the risk. One day I hope to be there. Maybe this year. Until then I am dreaming of moving to a town where I am not connected to the things that happened in my life. I do not want pity or glares.